The Step By Step Attraction Guide
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Mystery's M3 pickup model has everything you need to know about the fundamentals of picking up women. Seduction can actually be broken down like a scientific experiment. The M3 pickup model, like the scientific method, is a technique to solve a problem, and what greater problem is there than how to seduce women? However, a lot of men might look at that and be like in high school chemistry: blank stares combined with a little bit of disgust and fear. For those of you put off by the technical aspect of the M3 model, the following is the streamlined version, the step by step pick-up.
The simplified version of picking up girls is basically broken down into 3 steps:
1) Approaching
2) Attraction
3) Connect
Simplifying everything to three steps makes it a lot easier to learn, memorize, and recognize what phase you are in so you can escalate appropriately. Basically, it works like this: first you approach the target and get in with an opener so the girl ends up being interested to what you have to say. Then you have to get the woman attracted to you, or at the minimum, interested. After the girl is interested, you have to hook and reel her in by establishing connection.
Approaching
Approaching a random girl is maybe one of the most frightening things you can do. There is no magic spell to get over this fear. Like any fear, you need to face it then overcome it. The best method to conquer fear of approaching women and the consequent approach anxiety is to do it over and over and over till you get desensitized to it. Let's get this straight: you WILL crash, burn and get turned down a lot of times in the beginning. If this stops you from approaching girls, you should really quit now and become a monk. However, as you acquire painful experience, rejection will get easier to handle, if not less painful, until the day comes when you barely get shot down at all. Rules to follow when approaching girls:
1) Follow the 3 second rule. Approach her within 3 seconds of seeing her.
2) Never open with a apology or filler like, "Excuse me," "I'm sorry but," "I couldn't help noticing," "I have to tell you," "If you're not too busy." These make you sound unconfident and like a beggar.
3) Never, ever give her a generic compliment, specifically if she's pretty. You'll just be one of the many dull dorks that month that told her how pretty she is and give her even more power.
4) Don't buy her a drink or whatever else to get her attention. You can't buy her interest. Buying her things serves to show her that you're so pathetic, you need to try and buy her interest.
5) Do not come off as too desperate, eager, or scared. Women are experts in body language and what is more unattractive than a desperate guy eager to do anything she wants ?
The Attract
If you have successfully approached a girl and she is actually ready and willing to listen to just what you want to say, you only have an instant to sell yourself. Consider this stage as the "elevator pitch." You're in an elevator with Donald Trump and you have until the duration of the elevator ride to pitch him your awesome business concept and get him interested in you. The attraction stage of seducing women is exactly like that. You have a couple minutes to sell yourself and gain her interest before she dismisses you as not having potential.
Women are attracted to your perceived value, and to win her interest, your perceived value has to equal or surpass her own value. There are 2 methods to do this. You can either raise your value or you can lower her value. Raising your value is done through a pick-up artist technique called DHV (demonstrate high value) and lowering her value is done with the pick-up technique called negging.
1) DHV (Demonstrating High Value)
DHV means that you are doing something or showing her that you are worthwhile of her attraction and interest and can provide her with something of value. She needs to feel that you add value to her so is worth her time. This is done through pickup artist gimmicks, tricks, routines, or simply just exhibiting a sense of value like the powerful, rich men naturally do.
2) Negging
Negging is a sort of fun antithesis to the compliment. The objective is to tease her playfully so that her value decreases a little bit. A neg should never come off as an insult but more of a tease to prompt a response from the woman. Pretty women particularly have such high value that unless you can pull off an exceptionally high value to match hers, it is best to decrease her value a little by using negs. Some effective negging are:
"You like shopping for outfits at Walmart, huh ?"
"Isn't that handbag last year's model?"
"I like your hairstyle, very 80's."
"You shouldn't be drinking any more alcohol, you're already not making any sense."
"I know a very affordable health club you might like."
"You're like a little sister, cute but pesky."
The Connect
Making a connection is the longest and most pleasurable stage in a successful pick-up. When you've established mutual attraction and the difficult part's over, it's just a matter of getting to know each other. You just chat, enjoy each others' company, and make mental and physical connections. This is the phase where you also intensify your kino (physical contact). Making a connect is mostly done by having a deep conversation and creating similar threads. You can discuss your vulnerabilities and childhood experiences here also to really develop a deep connection.
